At CFLP, we are all proud members of Resolution, a community of family justice professionals who work with families and individuals to resolve issues surrounding family breakdown in a constructive way. As Resolution members, we will always seek to reduce or manage any conflict and confrontation, to support and encourage families to put the best interests of any children first, and to act with honesty, integrity and objectivity. We all are, or have been, involved with Resolution at local and national level: currently, our Adam Moghadas is Chair of the local Cambridge and West Suffolk group, our Tricia Ashton is its Treasurer, and Simon Bethel is Chair of the national Children’s Committee.
All of us at CFLP have spent many years working as family law professionals and our experience tells us clearly that clients reach the best outcomes when they are helped to understand and manage the potential long-term financial and emotional consequences of their decisions. This is why we use our experience and knowledge to guide our clients through all the options available to them: negotiation, collaboration, mediation, or litigation, and help them make the choices that are right for them. We understand that there is no one-size-fits-all solution for family disputes.
As Resolution members, we have all signed up to a Code of Practice that will demonstrate to clients the approach we will take. The Code promotes a constructive approach to family issues and considers the needs of the whole family, in particular the best interests of children.
If you decide to work with us, this means we will be:
- Listening to you, being honest with you and treating you with respect.
- Explaining all the options and giving you confidence to make the right decisions.
- Helping you focus on what’s important in the long-term.
- Helping you balance the financial and emotional costs with what you want to achieve.
- Working with others to find the right approach and the best solutions for you.
- Managing stress in what may well be an already stressful situation.
Because we are signed up to the Resolution Code, we work with a network of other like-minded professionals, including mediators, financial planners and family consultants, to make sure we are helping our clients find the right approach for them.
Resolution leads campaigns to change laws and practices that are unhelpful to families in divorce and separation. For example, the organisation is lobbying parliament to amend the law of divorce so that the requirement to prove fault is removed. You can read more about that in our previous blog here. In summary, at present, in order to divorce, unless couples have been living apart for two years, one of them needs to apportion some form of blame –adultery or unreasonable behaviour. This often creates conflict and makes reaching a mutually acceptable agreement about future arrangements much more difficult.
Indeed today, 30 November 2016, over 150 family justice professionals including our Adam Moghadas are going to Parliament to meet with their local MPs, to talk to them about why the Government needs to allow for no fault divorce. We’re particularly concerned about the impact conflict and confrontation between separating parents has on their children, and believe that having to engage in blame in order to access a legal process sets things off on the wrong foot for later constructive co-parenting.
Another Resolution campaign is about bringing in a legal framework that would cover relationship breakdowns among people who live together and possibly have a family together, but don’t get married. Nearly 50% of people still think that living with someone gives you the same rights as being married to them, and it can be a terrible shock to find out that this isn’t true. Resolution would like to see laws put in place to give anyone who has suffered financially because of a relationship – for example, by giving up their career to raise children – the opportunity to obtain a level of compensation from the other person.
Last but certainly not least, let us bring to your attention Resolution’s Parenting Charter. The Children Committee developed this initiative because at times of family difficulty, it is easy for adults to forget what it is like to be a child. Resolution encourages parents to agree together that their children have the right to:
- be at the centre of any decisions made about their lives
- feel and be loved and cared for by both parents
- know and have contact with both sides of their families, including any siblings who may not live with them, as long as they are safe
- a childhood, including freedom from the pressures of adult concerns such as financial worries
- financial support and protection from poverty
- support and encouragement in all aspects of their lives, including their education, as well as their physical and mental well-being
- form and express their own views on any matter affecting them
- be kept informed about matters in an age-appropriate manner
- privacy and respect for their feelings, including the way they feel about each of their parents
- protection from information and material, including that found online, which may be harmful to them
- protection from harm, and from adults who might do them harm.
If you have any questions about Resolution or any aspect of family law, please do call us on 01223 443333 and make an appointment to see Adam, Simon, Sue, Tricia or Gail.